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Getting a top job dramatically increases women’s chances of divorce, even in egalitarian countries. Why isn’t it the same for men?

Having a successful and enjoyable career alongside a fulfilling romantic relationship is a life goal for many of us. But even in the most gender-equal countries, finding a partnership that lasts is trickier for high-flying women than men.

In Sweden, which ranks first in the EU’s gender equality index thanks to factors like generous parental leave, subsidised daycare and flexible working arrangements, economists recently studied how promotions to top jobs affected the probability of divorce for each gender. The result: women were much more likely to pay a higher personal price for their career success.

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“Promotion to a top job in politics increases the divorce rate of women but not for men, and women who become CEOs divorce faster than men who become CEOs,” summarises Johanna Rickne, a professor at Stockholm University and co-author of the research, which was published earlier this month in American Economic Journal.

The paper, which looked at the lives of heterosexual men and women working for private companies with 100 or more employees, found that married women were twice as likely to be divorced three years after their promotion to CEO level compared to their male counterparts.

In the public sector, using three decades’ worth of records, women mayors and parliamentarians promoted after an election doubled their chances of splitting from their partners; 75 percent were still married eight years after the vote compared with 85 per cent of those who didn’t get promoted, while there was no evidence of a similar effect for men.

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Female medical doctors, police officers and priests who progressed in their careers also followed the trend.

The authors noted that while the majority of participants in the study had children, most had left home by the time their parents divorced, so the marriage stressors in the run-up to these separations were not connected to more generalised pressures of having small children.

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Rickne argues that although Sweden has provided the legislation and societal structures to create “the expectation that you shouldn’t need to choose between family and career”, the research reveals that what happens to families when women progress up the career ladder is often a different story.

Many couples experience “stress and friction” when there are changes in the division of their economic and social roles, for example due to the impact on the amount of leisure time they can spend together or how they divide up household tasks. But this, the research team argues, is often amplified when it is the woman who is promoted, because it creates more of a mismatch of expectations.

While Rickne’s research did not measure which party initiated divorce in each case, one theory is that the husbands of top managers who got promoted found the situation harder to deal with than wives who were married to high-performing men.

She points out that the marriage market has not kept up with the labour market when it comes to gender equality, since it is “still seen as quite unusual for men to be the main supportive spouse in someone else’s career”.

 “I think this norm changing is pretty far off,” she adds. Her team’s research, she argues, might therefore act as a lesson about what lies ahead for other countries that are moving towards more egalitarian economies.

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A common concern

For Charlotte Ljung, 39, a CEO within a luxury bed and furniture group in Sweden who also runs an online advice platform for people getting divorced, Rickne’s research reflects common concerns within her own network of high-achieving women.

“The joke is ‘the better you do at work, the more likely you are going to get a divorce’,” she laughs.

She got divorced while her two children were still small and says that for her, juggling parenthood and a senior role was a key source of friction within her marriage.

But Ljung believes that “the practical aspects” of being a CEO, such as frequent travel, long hours and the pressures having a high public profile can often cause struggle for the partners of senior female managers even if the couple doesn’t have kids.

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“It is also the power perception – who wears the pants, who brings in more money,” she argues. “Men today often find it intriguing in the beginning and want to be seen to support you and root for you – and I think that is a very positive thing – but I think a few steps down the line, when reality kicks in, it can be more difficult for men to deal with.”

Choosing the right partner

So how might women aiming for top jobs mitigate their chances of entering into a relationship that destabilises when they reach the top of their career ladder?

Rickne points out that, even in egalitarian countries like Sweden, women still tend to marry older men who start out having more money than them, harking back to traditional “prince in the fairytale” narratives that “try and teach us to find as successful a husband as possible”.

“High-income high-status women – they don’t marry a low-income man who wants to be a house husband. They tend to seek an even more high-income husband. But thinking forward to your possibilities in the labour market, this might not be ideal,” she argues. “Maybe try and get into a more egalitarian relationship from the start.”

Her research found that divorces after promotions were most likely in couples where the wife was younger than her husband by a larger margin and took a bigger share of parental leave.

Couples who were closer in age and took a more egalitarian approach to childcare were less likely to divorce following a wife’s promotion. The paper calls for more research to explore the conditions that might encourage “women at the top of the ability distribution to expand their choice set of partners to ‘marry down’ and for men to do the opposite”.

Positive examples

Charlotte Sundåker, 38, was promoted to interim CEO of a global education company in Stockholm two years after having her first child with her long-term partner Christian Hagman, who is 31. She believes his younger age played a positive role in their relationship surviving “lots of friction” after she got the job; there was “less pressure for him to be more successful” since he was in a different phase of his career.

Sundåker describes him as being “of another generation that tries to challenge the old ways of being a man”, which made him more supportive of her tough workload. But both partners argue that the core reason they remained together was frequent and honest conversations about the challenges they were facing.

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“When she actually started, she was obviously consumed by it. That is the nature of being a CEO,” says Hagman. “I was a bit sad about not connecting with her on a daily basis from a relationship standpoint… But she saw me and she listened to me, and I did the same.”

The couple says that having a long-term perspective was also essential, with an understanding that Hagman would want to have his own more career-focused period in the future.

He has since started his own design consultancy, while Sundåker now runs her own business and heads up Ownershift, a Swedish think tank designed to empower more women to do the same.

Divorced CEO Charlotte Ljung believes that increased awareness of the common challenges faced by couples after women are promoted into more senior jobs could also improve the chances of relationship survival, even for those who start off in more gender-traditional roles.

“One has to be careful about putting on a feminist hat and pointing fingers, because nothing has really prepared men for this change, practically,” she says. “We need to provide better tools and raise awareness of the subject by talking about it. In the same way we have destigmatised therapy, is there is a similar thing we can do to help men?”

The benefits of divorce

Meanwhile, divorce isn’t always a bad thing. Molly Malm, a lawyer, points out the high level of female participation in the workforce and a norm of shared custody of children following a split makes it easier for divorcees of all economic backgrounds to leave partnerships that aren’t working.

“Getting a divorce doesn’t always need to be the end of the world,” says Malm, who points out that is has become normalised in Scandinavia to get married multiple times or have several long-term partners across a lifetime.

Rickne’s data suggests that women who divorce after scoring top promotions are less likely than men to remarry or have a serious relationship. But from her work it’s not possible to conclude whether they are happier without a partner or if they found it harder to find someone new compared to their male counterparts.

However, one constructive consequence of high divorce rates, she argues, is that it has become much easier for both men and women to hold senior roles in business and politics without a partner.

“Society has accepted divorce more, and it might be a positive thing,” she argues. “If women get into unequal relationships with a spouse that will not support their career, divorce lets them continue their careers alone and possibly look for a new partner… It’s not necessarily ideal to stay with the same person your whole life.”

1. A mother can keep baby but shouldn’t deny father access…

In separation or divorce disputes, there is a glaring rule that mothers retain custody of children of tender years. It does not end there as the parent having actual custody of the baby must allow access to the other parent!

Courts take into consideration that to deprive a parent access to his/her child is to deny the baby an important contribution to his/her emotional and material growing up.

2. Child custody doesn’t have to be decided in court…

The divorces recorded in the courts only account for spouses who divorce formally through the legal system.

It is also a reality that several other matrimonial disputes are not resolved in court as spouses prefer Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) and resolve differences by mediation. They agree on who has custody of the children, upkeep, visitation rights and sharing of matrimonial property.

3. If it is good for the child, it is good for the courts…

Family lawyers concur that during disputes involving parents, the best interest of the child must remain paramount.

“When adults make decisions, they should think about how their decisions will affect children, “Lawyer Judy Thongori says and explains that in physical custody cases, the courts perform a delicate balance to ensure that even if children live with the mother, the father is not alienated.

“We have cases where school terms are split between the parents and the holidays equally shared,” she says.

She explains that there are also cases in which courts direct that parents take alternate weekends to be with the babies – their presence is encouraged.

4. What is joint or sole custody?

Lawyer Leah Kiguatha says that courts can either issue orders on joint or sole legal custody of children.

“Joint legal custody means both parents share the right and responsibility to make decisions relating to the health, education and welfare of the child. Sole Custody means one parent can have either sole legal custody or sole physical custody of a child,” Kiguatha says.

Kiguatha also explains that Section Six of the Children’s Act provides that a child has a right to live with and be cared for by his parents.



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Alcohol-delivery firm Dial a drink Kenya Providing Convenience amid pandemic

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NAIROBI, Kenya July 12 –  Founded two months after the corona virus outbreak in Kenya, Drinkup, an alcohol delivery firm has aligned itself to online delivery of alcohol in order to reduce unnecessary movements which is key in minimizing the risk of corona virus infections in the country.

The firm, which was founded in February but launched its operations in May is solely focused on alcoholic products ranging from wines, spirits, beer amongst others.

With a fixed Sh 100 delivery fee, Kenyans across Nairobi and its environs can order their favorite drinks through the multi vendor platform, a phone call or an SMS for a delivery within 30 minutes.

Speaking to Capital Business, Drinkup Director Charles Wagura noted that the launch of firm was inspired by the need to create convenience for Kenyans in the wake of the pandemic which has necessitated the need to avoid physical contact and unnecessary movements.

“The main inspiration behind the formation of this firm is the convenience brought by online delivery and our clients do not have to go the shop, they can either call, send a text or order the drink from our online platform,” he said.

The experience in the market so far, Wagura said, “has been immense” , with more people ordering through the application with variety of drink choices for the clients and convenient drivers who can deliver quickly.

“The industry is receptive to the business, most people prefer online deliveries, this is why you see most business are turning to e-commerce,” he said.

While the business has accrued profits since May, he said the profits from the business are currently being re-invested in the company to increase its growth.

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In the near future, the firm is planning to expand its services to Nakuru and Mombasa and also include the supply of drinking water to its clients.

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Like any other e-commerce platform, Drinkup has experienced its fair of challenges, key among them is delayed deliveries, insufficient drivers and payment mode with many clients still preferring cash  mode of payment which poses risk on transfer of the virus

“We are still learning, we are working to bring more drivers on board to increase the speed of delivery time,” he added.

Being a multi-vendor platform which hosts various shops, Wagura pointed out that the firm conducts thorough background checks on the liquor shops to ensure  they have valid liquor license, are compliant with law and abide by other necessary requirements to own such such a shop.

As part of his proposals, he urged the Government to further ease the ease of doing business especially on taxation noting that the planned imposition of taxes on  e-commerce will push away many Small and Micro Enterprises (SMEs).

“When the ease of conducting business for online business is sabotaged, the ripple effect will be felt by those in the lower cadre in the chain including riders who rely on online deliveriEs to reap their benefits,” he concluded.

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COVID-19 patient to sue Isiolo County for exposing him – KBC

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A 62-year-old man in Isiolo County who recovered from COVID-19 is seeking justice after health workers at Garbatula Hospital allegedly shared his photos and biodata on social media platforms.

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Osman Shariff who is a trader in the area is now decrying of immense stigma and massive losses in his businesses following the alleged move by the health workers at the hospital where he had been placed under isolation.

The businessman is seeking to sue the County Government even after Isiolo Governor Mohamed Kuti pleaded with him to put the matter to rest.

After recovering from COVID-19, Osman Shariff has now resolved to seek legal redress, to compel the county government to compensate him from what he terms as malicious damage to his business.

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The 62-year-old trader says he is undergoing immense psychological torture after his photos and biodata went viral on social media, the details he says were shared by health workers at Garbatula Hospital.

The stigma he says has been extended to his family posing an unfriendly environment as the trauma takes a toll on them.

His quest to seek justice coming days after Isiolo Governor Mohamed Kuti acknowledged the incident and further pleaded with the victim to put the matter to rest.

Individuals who recover from the dreaded coronavirus have continuously faced stigmatization from the community.

Some even from close relatives, this notwithstanding the Ministry of Health’s plea to the public not to discriminate any individual on such grounds.

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Nairobi County loses 400 parking bays at Telposta Towers

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Nairobi County loses 400 parking bays at Telposta Towers

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The Nairobi County government has lost control of more than 400 parking bays at Telposta Towers after a court found that it is private property belonging to Teleposta Pension Scheme Trustees.

Justice Samson Okong’o of the Environment and Lands Court found that the defunct City County Council had surrendered the property to the pension scheme in 2005 at a cost of Sh15 million.

Having handed over and received payment, the judge said the City government had relinquished its interest in the disputed property.

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After acquiring the property, the Scheme developed it resulting to creation of 408 parking bays at the basement and a recreational area. Other 45 parking bays that had been erected by the city council remained intact.

The Scheme moved to court in 2010 after City Hall attempted to evict the security personnel manning the parking bays.

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Nairobi also wanted to levy parking fees on the the Scheme’s customers and tenants, a move that Justice Okong’o said amounted to trespassing.

The County government had denied that it sold the property to the scheme adding that the title that was issued after the plot was amalgamated with another was illegal, null and void.

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