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Signs your success is hindering your relationships

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As children we all grow up wanting to be successful, financial independent and have the best things in life. But, be careful for what you wish for.

Being a successful man or woman can be a blessing and a curse.

It may be that promotion you have been chasing that has finally come, or you’re now the proud owner of a business that is flourishing day by day.

If only your love life matched the wins in other areas of your life.

Finding someone you can completely match with has proven to be a challenge for many successful people. Creating that proper balance between work and a partner can be quite stressful and sometimes, these relationships end up failing.

The good news is that you can understand how your busy lifestyle is affecting your relationships and learn from some of these mistakes.

Read through some of the indications your success could be ruining your love life.

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1.Too busy to date

This is probably the most obvious reasons why your relationships are struggling. If you are a manger, owner of a top business or in any other career that is demanding, it leaves no time for you to focus on the relationship. At this point, your work is your priority. Because of this, you might need to be on call at all times and attend meetings back to back. You might also be misunderstood when you don’t return missed calls or miss some important events that you partner expected you to attend.

Clearly let your partner know that your lifestyle is a busy one so that they will be more understanding when issues like these come up. It’ll prevent them from being insecure, suspicious and angry when you don’t come through.

2. Always travelling

Many successful people have a travelling lifestyle. Your job might require you to constantly make trips abroad to secure deals and to network with others. Because of this, you might find it hard to get someone who is willing to be with you every step of the way. Things might start off as exciting as they visit new places with you, but this can often get overwhelming.

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Also, as you settle and start thinking of having kids, it becomes hard to find a balance. For this reason, many are reluctant to be with someone who is always on the move. Let them know early that you travel a lot for work so that they can decide whether the dynamic works for them or not.

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3. Being present in the relationship

When you don’t have a strategy to balance your priorities, your relationship can suffer. It can be hard to block out distractions such as calls and messages from work while spending time with your spouse. This causes your partner to feel lonely, abandoned and resentful towards you, because they feel like they are the only ones making an effort to keep the love alive.

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One way to find a balance is agreeing on certain times when you can keep the phones away and focus on each other. This way, you both feel valued and loved.

4. Being physically apart

Sometimes in relationships, you won’t be able to be together physically for long periods of time. You might both have serious work demands as successful people that require you to live at a particular place at one point. Because of this, you might have to look into long distance relationship to make things work. Even though long-distance relationships are quite demanding, they can definitely work if you are willing to put in the work.

5. Difficulty committing

Successful people tend to be self-reliant and independent. With an expensive lifestyle and extra money to spend, you become extremely independent because you don’t need someone to provide what you’re already providing for yourself. However, these same amazing qualities can often be twisted to kill your love life.

When you don’t keep yourself in check, you can end up being overly independent and too self-reliant. Over time, you might get into short term disposable relationships with people who are more interested in what you have. If you are truly interested in settling down, be open minded and find someone who loves you for you and not your bank account.

 

 

 

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Singer speaks after attacking lover at WCB signee Zuchu’s star-studded concert

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Controversial singer Gigy Money turned WCB signee Zuchu’s concert into a fight club, hurling shoes at her lover.

On 18 July, there was fanfare at the Mlimani City Hall in Dar es Salaam as WCB signee Zuchu held a thanksgiving concert months after her debut EP, I Am Zuchu. The event dubbed ‘Ahsante Nashukuru’ mainly featured performances by artistes from the WCB stable and attracted the whos-who in the Tanzanian entertainment and political scenes. 

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However, singer Gigy Money who also performed made the headlines for the wrong reasons after getting into a scuffle with her lover during the much-publicised concert.

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Peaceful arrival, later chaos

Moments earlier, Gigy and her Nigerian man were seen arriving arm in arm at the event whose highlight featured Zuchu receiving a brand new car from WCB head honcho Diamond Platnumz. Donning matching outfits, the couple was spotted on the red carpet as the paparazzi scrambled to capture the moment.  However, all hell breaks loose later and viral videos depict the visibly angered Nigerian arguing with a bouncer at the entrance. After a tense confrontation, Gigy’s man is seen being led by the screaming bouncer towards the exit. Shortly after, a similarly irritated Gigy emerges and follows the pair.

“Gigy! Wewe Gigy wewe!” a woman in the background is heard dissuading the singer from pursuing them but the singer pays no heed and heads for the pair.

“You want to beat me?” the boyfriend is heard asking an approaching Gigy as the bouncer acts as a barrier between them. The bouncer manages to steer the incensed man towards the exit as Gigy follows behind, hurling obscenities.

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At some point, a barefoot Gigy turns into a sprint before throwing one of her shoes which hits the man who then responds with an insult. Another bouncer finally intervenes and the two are separated. Gigy then asks for her vehicle so she can head home before warning the press against sharing videos of the incident.

Addresses incident

Though the cause of their tiff is still unknown Gigy later made reference to the shocking incident in a social media post, hinting that alcohol had a part to play in the fracas.  In another post, Gigy shared a photo alongside her estranged lover writing: “My mad man looked handsome before his demons arose and mine arose too.”

‘Running over Ali Kiba’

Gigy is not new controversy and recently said she’d run over her ex, singer Ali Kiba for breaking her heart.

“I will knock all of them down, I mean I will kill them. In fact, I will flatten them like chapatis. The first person I will knock down and kill is Ali Kiba.  Actually, I don’t need a weak car, I need a Fuso so that when I knock him down I will be sure he doesn’t survive,” Gigy told Ayo TV.

READ ALSO: Gigy Money under fire for dirty-dancing with married singer

Dating Kiba brothers

Gigy had in the past admitted to dating both Ali Kiba and his younger brother, Abdu Kiba. She solely laid the blame on Chekecha singer for pursuing her despite knowing that she’d been with his younger brother. Abdu expressed being heartbroken after learning the two had a fling, prompting him to marry.

“I was very hurt on hearing that Ali was dating Gigy Money because I dated her first before she became famous. But it’s alleged that Ali didn’t know. It hurt me for a while till when I married,” said Abdu.

 

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Why Jahmby Kokai is happy her TV anchor dream never came true

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Jahmby Koikai is glad her dream of being a TV anchor never came true.

Popular media personality Jahmby Koikai narrated how her first attempt at auditioning as a TV host backfired and she was sent home on the first day of the audition. Reliving her prime days, Jahmby narrated how she was determined to follow her dream of becoming a news anchor after completing her degree.

“There was a reality show that was running on one major TV channel here in Kenya, searching for the next top news anchor. I’ve always had the knack for news. At the time, I was working at Metro FM. Walked to my boss and asked him if he was ok with me participating in this competition. He agreed to it.

“Auditions were at Film Studios. The queue stretched all the way to the showground. I was at the back kabisa. Imagine 300 people before you. Then we got the briefing paper and it indicated, ‘no persons with experience in a media house allowed to participate in this audition’. Mimi Jahmby Koikai, nirudi home after watu 300 kukuwa mbele yangu?” she posed.

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According to the endometriosis survivor, she went ahead to audition for the position despite the warning and was the first contestant to be sent packing.

“So I stayed in line until I got to the audition room. The judges were a few people I was in campus with. I felt a wave of despair. Like I’m here auditioning, yet my classmates will be judging me? I did my thing and I was considered. We got into the house and we were assigned to different groups. I was the group leader and we won the challenge. Later that evening, we were driven back to Film Studios for a briefing. The presenter of the show said some of us have to go home.

“My name was called out first amongst other great people. We were dropped home. I cried. It felt like I’d lost such a great opportunity. My mom and late grandma were so sad cos they loved to watch me do the news,” she narrated.

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Second audition

Later, Jahmby auditioned for another TV opportunity only to miss out as well.

“Then came another opportunity over 10 years ago, I saw a TV ad and decided to apply for the news anchor position. I didn’t get the job.”

However, due to endometriosis, Jahmby was forced to put her dreams on hold and concentrate on getting better. According to her, it is as though God had better plans for her and is grateful to not have gotten the jobs.

“I battled severe endometriosis in silence for over 19 years. I think of how engaging the newsroom is and I’m grateful I wasn’t in that space. I’d have utilized all my sick-leaves and off-days and just declared redundant.”

 

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There was a reality show that was running on one major TV channel here in Kenya, searching for the next top news anchor. I’ve always had the knack for news. At the time, I was working at Metro Fm. Walked to my boss and asked him if he was ok with me participating in this competition. He agreed to it. Auditions were at Film Studios. The queue stretched all the way to the showground. I was at the back kabisa. Imagine 300 people before you. Then we got the briefing paper and it indicated, ‘no persons with experience in a media house allowed to participate in this audition’. Mimi Jahmby Koikai, nirudi home after watu 300 kukuwa mbele yangu? Nikasema zi. So I stayed in line until I got to the audition room. The judges were a few people I was in campus with. I felt a wave of despair. Like I’m here auditioning, yet my classmates will be judging me? I did my thing and I was considered. We got into the house and we were assigned to different groups. I was the group leader and we won the challenge. Later that evening, we were driven back to Film Studios for a briefing. The presenter of the show said, some of us have to go home. My name was called out first amongst other great people. We were dropped home. I cried. It felt like I’d lost such a great opportunity. My mom and late grandma were so sad cos they loved to watch me do the news. Then came another opportunity over 10years ago, I saw a TV ad and decided to apply for the news anchor position. As you see in this pic, I got my hair done at Ralph’s Hair Salon, new suit etc. I didn’t get the job. After KBC, I never got to anchor the news again. I’m grateful I did not get the job even though I felt dejected at the time. I battled severe Endometriosis in silence for over 19years. I think of how engaging the newsroom is and I’m grateful I wasn’t in that space. I’d have utilised all my sick-leaves and off-days and just declared redundant. There are many people like me who are bound by chronic illness and cannot do the things they love. I share your pain. But there’s hope. I’m grateful to God for His reminder that He will restore to you all the years that the locusts have eaten. Also Jer 29:11

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