It’s good to have friends, lot’s of them if you can. Ancient stoics even valued friendship more highly than romantic love. Friends help you when you are in need. Friends are fun to hang out with. Friends also listen to you when you are severely stressed out and need to vent.
We tend to assume that our friends have our best interests at heart but is that really the case? It’s actually not. The latest incident involving Bahati and Mr Seed actually got me thinking. In case you are still in the dark, here’s what happened (according to Mr Seed’s interview on Mseto East Africa).
Bahati had a major gospel concert on New Year ’s Eve. Bahati’s wife had been bitten by the entrepreneurship bug and decided to sell coffee at the event. Interestingly, Mr Seed’s wife Nimo also wanted to cash in by selling coffee and other foodstuffs at the event as well. Diana was not happy about this so she asked Le Hubby to ‘take care of the problem’.
So despite Mr Seed being one of his closest friends and actually the most talented artiste on EMB records, Bahati decided to call the cops and have Nimo evicted.
Just like you, my first reaction was ‘what the hell?” All these people were ‘friends’ and the matter should have been resolved amicably and quickly. So, why did this end up happening? It’s simply because one person wasn’t a real friend to the other.
Real friends are in fact very rare. You might not like to hear this but many of your friends don’t actually like you. In fact, there are two kinds of friends. There are those who feel you are better than them hence they are constantly jealous of you. Then there are friends who feel they are better than you hence they feel they are doing you a favour by being your friend.
Let’s talk about the first type of friend – the one that thinks you are better than them. This kind will only hang around you for convenience purposes. Basically, there is something they are gaining from you. Deep inside, they are jealous, wondering why they are not like you. They are good at dishing out flattery and pretending they are happy for you but deep inside they are not.
Got a new good-looking bae? They are jealous. Got a promotion? They are jealous. They won’t show their feelings but one day they might feel so bitter that they stop hanging out with you altogether.
Sometimes they’ll stick by you and be your side kick forever but when you are away, they will be masters of talking about you. Of course, the content of their gossip about you won’t be the good stuff. It will be the negatives – it will be content full of malignity. It will be criticism and passing out information that you wanted to remain secret.
Then there are friends who feel they are better than you. These ones tend to see you as a loser. They keep wondering why you are not as smart or as successful as them. They’ll take every little chance possible to serve you criticism laced with insolence while pretending its good advice they are offering.
So should you be friendless? Of course not – even if you wanted to – you can’t operate all by yourself. You need others. Just make sure you keep radiating unearthly volumes of awareness at all times. Have eyes on your kisogo. Study your friends and watch yourself around them.
Never let your guard down and stay wise. Many great people have fallen for placing too much trust in their friends.
After declaring that long distance relationships aren’t for her, Sherlyne Anyango might have bagged herself a new mzungu boyfriend. It’s barely days since she left the country to go to the States to ‘hustle’. According to her, it’s easier to hustle in the States with her twerking talent.
Love At First Sight?
Well, she moved on quickly! This was the reaction of most of her fans after Sherlyne went live with her new catch. Most people were surprised by how fast she possibly got a boyfriend. But she hasn’t made it clear.
While this might seem unfair to her Kenyan bae, Oga Obinna, it was a mutual agreement between them to dissolve their relationship due to the distance between them.
”I’m a single boy again now😪😱!! Now with the standards you set who will fit in🤷🏿 who will fill your shoes??But Si Ni Life… But for now Kill Them with your AWESOMENESS and SECURE THE BAG!!! Don’t let nobody tell you otherwise. Plus there will always be space for you in my Heart and Kidney🙊🙈🙏🏿.”
In line to this, Sherlyne had also declared how much she misses Obinna and wrote back to him;
”Don’t make me cry. That’s life 😞😞. I feel bad. I miss you badly.”
Well, turns out she won’t be missing him any more after getting a new catch. Obinna has not yet responded to Sherlyne’s video posted on her Insta stories. I bet he’s not happy seeing her with another man.
When it comes to buying or tailoring a new blazer, most people think it’s all about getting what fits. Even though that is one of the most vital things to focus on when selecting blazers, there are other things you need to look out for in order to have a perfect and versatile blazer.
Versatile is not just about being able to match most pieces in your closet, but something that will enhance your outfits and define your best features while at it. In case you are wondering on where to start with buying a blazer, start here:
Yes, this is the first thing you should consider before making or buying yourself a blazer. You need to check your closet and consider the most dominant colour and pieces, can they be layered with a blazer or paired together?
Once that is set, you are good to go, though the more colourful a blazer is the more fun you will have pairing it with other pieces.
When selecting the perfect blazer always be very careful not to choose a small blazer. You might confuse a small blazer for a fitting one.
It should not be too tight that your shoulders cannot move in it or you can barely button it.
Although ladies are lucky they can go with any arm length, because it can be considered fashionable, ensure that it is your size. Also, avoid going for extra-large coats that will drown you and hide your best features.
A blazer is in between a suit jacket and a hoodie. Meaning, it should be able to pass for official and casual events. Let your guide be what you are buying it for.
There are different kinds of blazers ranging from open front blazers, single breasted blazers, belted ones, the list is endless.
Always go for a blazer that resonates with your style and closet items. Also, long blazers are classier and versatile than the shorter boyfriend ones. This is in terms of versatility.
Are you looking for a linen blazer, cotton or the suit material fabric? Do you want it shiny or matte? Do you need one with metal studded elements or with embellished buttons like the army? The kind of texture you go for will determine the way you dress your blazer.
Although blazers are meant to match with all outfits, the kind of design you go for can either limit your outfit choices or broaden your matching game.
They say the longer the blazer, the double the respect. You already know what I mean by this. Longer blazers are more eye catching, trendy and versatile. It will be easier for you to pair them to a tiny skirt, pencil trouser or palazzos.
Also did I mention how well they pair with crop tops? Yes, when buying a blazer, the length is very important.
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By Milo George
Residents of Pipeline Transami area are decrying poor drainage system that has caused sewage water to overflow in their area of residence.
The residents claim that the overflowing sewage is not only putting their lives at risk but also causing air pollution.
They have called on Nairobi Metropolitan Services and Nairobi City Water and Sewage Company to come on board and expand the sewer lines before more areas are flooded with raw human wastes coming from the blocked pipes. “We want Major Badi and our leaders to resolve this menace immediately. It’s terrible many have been forced to shift their businesses because of the foul smell,” they said. Pastor Joe Ndivoh of Word Evangelistic Explosion Ministries says that they have been forced to call off the Sunday School Service to protect the children from the smelly sewage. ‘‘We now fear that if prompt action is not taken then we will have a bigger health problem than this because we fear there could be an outbreak of water-borne disease anytime,’’ Pastor Ndivoh added.
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