The Standard Lockdown couples are hitting pause on plans to split and lawyers are predicting peaks in divorces
While most of us are in lockdown alone, or with flatmates, family or partners, Kat, 28, is stuck inside with the fiancé she has fallen out of love with.
Back in February, the news of the mystery virus sweeping through the Chinese city of Wuhan seemed a distant threat.
Her mind was preoccupied with home life after the couple had a fight devastating enough to collapse the foundation of their relationship.
Kat – whose name has been changed – began wondering if it was time to call an end to their engagement, and began anxiously plotting her next move.
But within weeks, coronavirus was on the doorstep.
Opting to stay put, Kat shares that she doubts she is the only one gritting her teeth in relationship limbo as households around the world stay at home during the pandemic.
“I am sure other couples would find it so sad and depressing. They would end up staying together for their everyday wellbeing rather than thinking about deep down what is right for them.”
She had contemplated how spending more time than ever together could have presented an opportunity to work out problems with her fiancé – but instead has found it fastened her resolve to leave.
“You have a lot of time to think. Sometimes we can live in a bubble of brush it off, plan for the future or just keep going for now. The position we’re in makes that very hard and confrontational.”
So for an untold number of people unhappily shacked up like Kat, lockdown means hitting pause on beginning a new life.
Her family lives abroad, and most countries have already restricted all but essential travel.
Quitting her relationship would mean leaving her job and the country – not to mention questions about who would be left to shoulder the couple’s rent bill.
And by the time Kat realised she really did want to leave, it was already too late.
Typing secretly from another room – worried her fiancé could overhead a call – she told us the pair are isolating together in increasing disharmony.
She has not yet revealed to him her plans to leave as soon as the lockdown lifts.
Kat says she is worried about her furloughed partner’s stress, and that they’ll be stuck together in bitterness.
She called the idea of breaking up with him during lockdown a “recipe for disaster” – and – “needless to say painful as you are dragging it out.”
Living in close quarters with no chance of privacy, Kat says she has been unable to make calls to friends or family to ask for advice.
Feeling unsure of when she will be able to make the move, Kat can only furtively tap away messages on her phone to her confidants – and try to keep the peace.
“It’s also a hard thing to bring up with family in the first place when you’ve been together for so long and they think everything is fine.”
She anxiously watches the news, certain that as soon as the lockdown lifts sufficiently for her to move to start a new life it will be time to go.
“I think we both know it’s a very uncertain time, the world is in a very fragile place right now. Needless to say we will both be upset. Sometimes nobody is right or wrong.”
Kat, whose name is withheld to protect her privacy, is among an untold number for whom lockdown means life-changing decisions must be put on ice.
But sociologists – and divorce lawyers – will surely be watching the pandemic’s effect on modern love and relationships unfold with a keen eye.
After declaring that long distance relationships aren’t for her, Sherlyne Anyango might have bagged herself a new mzungu boyfriend. It’s barely days since she left the country to go to the States to ‘hustle’. According to her, it’s easier to hustle in the States with her twerking talent.
Love At First Sight?
Well, she moved on quickly! This was the reaction of most of her fans after Sherlyne went live with her new catch. Most people were surprised by how fast she possibly got a boyfriend. But she hasn’t made it clear.
While this might seem unfair to her Kenyan bae, Oga Obinna, it was a mutual agreement between them to dissolve their relationship due to the distance between them.
”I’m a single boy again now😪😱!! Now with the standards you set who will fit in🤷🏿 who will fill your shoes??But Si Ni Life… But for now Kill Them with your AWESOMENESS and SECURE THE BAG!!! Don’t let nobody tell you otherwise. Plus there will always be space for you in my Heart and Kidney🙊🙈🙏🏿.”
In line to this, Sherlyne had also declared how much she misses Obinna and wrote back to him;
”Don’t make me cry. That’s life 😞😞. I feel bad. I miss you badly.”
Well, turns out she won’t be missing him any more after getting a new catch. Obinna has not yet responded to Sherlyne’s video posted on her Insta stories. I bet he’s not happy seeing her with another man.
When it comes to buying or tailoring a new blazer, most people think it’s all about getting what fits. Even though that is one of the most vital things to focus on when selecting blazers, there are other things you need to look out for in order to have a perfect and versatile blazer.
Versatile is not just about being able to match most pieces in your closet, but something that will enhance your outfits and define your best features while at it. In case you are wondering on where to start with buying a blazer, start here:
Yes, this is the first thing you should consider before making or buying yourself a blazer. You need to check your closet and consider the most dominant colour and pieces, can they be layered with a blazer or paired together?
Once that is set, you are good to go, though the more colourful a blazer is the more fun you will have pairing it with other pieces.
When selecting the perfect blazer always be very careful not to choose a small blazer. You might confuse a small blazer for a fitting one.
It should not be too tight that your shoulders cannot move in it or you can barely button it.
Although ladies are lucky they can go with any arm length, because it can be considered fashionable, ensure that it is your size. Also, avoid going for extra-large coats that will drown you and hide your best features.
A blazer is in between a suit jacket and a hoodie. Meaning, it should be able to pass for official and casual events. Let your guide be what you are buying it for.
There are different kinds of blazers ranging from open front blazers, single breasted blazers, belted ones, the list is endless.
Always go for a blazer that resonates with your style and closet items. Also, long blazers are classier and versatile than the shorter boyfriend ones. This is in terms of versatility.
Are you looking for a linen blazer, cotton or the suit material fabric? Do you want it shiny or matte? Do you need one with metal studded elements or with embellished buttons like the army? The kind of texture you go for will determine the way you dress your blazer.
Although blazers are meant to match with all outfits, the kind of design you go for can either limit your outfit choices or broaden your matching game.
They say the longer the blazer, the double the respect. You already know what I mean by this. Longer blazers are more eye catching, trendy and versatile. It will be easier for you to pair them to a tiny skirt, pencil trouser or palazzos.
Also did I mention how well they pair with crop tops? Yes, when buying a blazer, the length is very important.
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By Milo George
Residents of Pipeline Transami area are decrying poor drainage system that has caused sewage water to overflow in their area of residence.
The residents claim that the overflowing sewage is not only putting their lives at risk but also causing air pollution.
They have called on Nairobi Metropolitan Services and Nairobi City Water and Sewage Company to come on board and expand the sewer lines before more areas are flooded with raw human wastes coming from the blocked pipes. “We want Major Badi and our leaders to resolve this menace immediately. It’s terrible many have been forced to shift their businesses because of the foul smell,” they said. Pastor Joe Ndivoh of Word Evangelistic Explosion Ministries says that they have been forced to call off the Sunday School Service to protect the children from the smelly sewage. ‘‘We now fear that if prompt action is not taken then we will have a bigger health problem than this because we fear there could be an outbreak of water-borne disease anytime,’’ Pastor Ndivoh added.
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