I remember my first kiss like it was yesterday. Although it was a while back, I can still recall the surprise of being caught off-guard, settling into the kiss and feeling dazed afterwards. This ‘feeling dazed’ is what I ended up using to distinguish between memorable kisses and the ones I wish I could erase from my memory.
Fast-forward a few years, I had gathered enough experience to know that when the kiss is bad there’s no way that relationship will last. Even when you have amazing chemistry, when it boils down to the kiss, if it’s not good, the relationship quickly goes downhill.
After speaking to a number of people about their experiences, I found it a good idea to share bad kissing habits, and give tips on how to kiss well.
Below are some bad kissing habits.
1. Bad breath
This is a complete turn-off, whether you’re kissing or just talking. In this day and age of rows and rows of toothpaste and mouthwashes, chewing gum that promises minty fresh breath and dentists’ clinics popping up all over the place, you have no excuse to have bad breath. Before you lean in, pop a chicklet or two in your mouth, offer him/her one and get chewing. Chewing gum not only freshens your breath but it also helps dislodge food particles that might have been caught between your teeth, ensuring that your mouth is clean.
2. Too much saliva
Most of the people I spoke to, particularly ladies, said this was the biggest deal-breaker. There is no need to transfer your saliva to your partner’s mouth or face for that matter.
3. Poor aim
This was another big no-no. Some people said that a kiss that ended up not on the lips but nose, chin or cheeks, put them off completely. One person even said his date kissed his upper lip and he could feel her tongue brushing against his teeth! If you must kiss, aim for the lips, neck and other erogenous zones, unless you intentionally wanted to kiss her forehead or cheek.
One man spoke about protruding teeth getting in the way, while another said her braces broke off and he swallowed it! Bumping teeth can happen before you get your rhythm but avoid opening your mouth so wide that your teeth actually meet.
Instead of the above, do the following:
a. Exfoliate your lips
Cracked lips are a complete turn-off. A simple cure for chapped lips is to pass your toothbrush over them when you’re brushing your teeth. A sugar and honey scrub will also help get rid of cracked lips. There’s also no shame in carrying some lip balm with you to keep your lips moisturised.
b. Ensure you’re somewhere comfortable
Some people like PDA, others don’t. Before you embark on knocking her socks off, make sure you’re in a place where you can both be comfortable.
c. Pace yourself
Start slow and build up the intensity gradually, there’s no hurry. Allow your date to come up for air once in a while. You don’t want her falling unconscious in your arms.
d. Know what to do with your tongue
One of my best kisses had very little tongue involved. There was no exploring of each other’s teeth or mouth crevices. My face never got drenched with saliva. A tongue that darts in and out of your mouth is just as weird as one that leaves you wet all over.
e. Include caresses
Don’t focus so much on the lips and leave your hands hanging limply by your side. Hold hands, caress each other. One thing that I discovered I enjoyed was gently nibbling each other’s lower lip to change things up.
By following these steps you will be well on your way to becoming an excellent kisser.
Singer speaks after attacking lover at WCB signee Zuchu’s star-studded concert
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On 18 July, there was fanfare at the Mlimani City Hall in Dar es Salaam as WCB signee Zuchu held a thanksgiving concert months after her debut EP, I Am Zuchu. The event dubbed ‘Ahsante Nashukuru’ mainly featured performances by artistes from the WCB stable and attracted the whos-who in the Tanzanian entertainment and political scenes.
However, singer Gigy Money who also performed made the headlines for the wrong reasons after getting into a scuffle with her lover during the much-publicised concert.
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Peaceful arrival, later chaos
Moments earlier, Gigy and her Nigerian man were seen arriving arm in arm at the event whose highlight featured Zuchu receiving a brand new car from WCB head honcho Diamond Platnumz. Donning matching outfits, the couple was spotted on the red carpet as the paparazzi scrambled to capture the moment. However, all hell breaks loose later and viral videos depict the visibly angered Nigerian arguing with a bouncer at the entrance. After a tense confrontation, Gigy’s man is seen being led by the screaming bouncer towards the exit. Shortly after, a similarly irritated Gigy emerges and follows the pair.
“Gigy! Wewe Gigy wewe!” a woman in the background is heard dissuading the singer from pursuing them but the singer pays no heed and heads for the pair.
“You want to beat me?” the boyfriend is heard asking an approaching Gigy as the bouncer acts as a barrier between them. The bouncer manages to steer the incensed man towards the exit as Gigy follows behind, hurling obscenities.
At some point, a barefoot Gigy turns into a sprint before throwing one of her shoes which hits the man who then responds with an insult. Another bouncer finally intervenes and the two are separated. Gigy then asks for her vehicle so she can head home before warning the press against sharing videos of the incident.
Though the cause of their tiff is still unknown Gigy later made reference to the shocking incident in a social media post, hinting that alcohol had a part to play in the fracas. In another post, Gigy shared a photo alongside her estranged lover writing: “My mad man looked handsome before his demons arose and mine arose too.”
‘Running over Ali Kiba’
Gigy is not new controversy and recently said she’d run over her ex, singer Ali Kiba for breaking her heart.
“I will knock all of them down, I mean I will kill them. In fact, I will flatten them like chapatis. The first person I will knock down and kill is Ali Kiba. Actually, I don’t need a weak car, I need a Fuso so that when I knock him down I will be sure he doesn’t survive,” Gigy told Ayo TV.
Dating Kiba brothers
Gigy had in the past admitted to dating both Ali Kiba and his younger brother, Abdu Kiba. She solely laid the blame on Chekecha singer for pursuing her despite knowing that she’d been with his younger brother. Abdu expressed being heartbroken after learning the two had a fling, prompting him to marry.
“I was very hurt on hearing that Ali was dating Gigy Money because I dated her first before she became famous. But it’s alleged that Ali didn’t know. It hurt me for a while till when I married,” said Abdu.
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Why Jahmby Kokai is happy her TV anchor dream never came true
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Popular media personality Jahmby Koikai narrated how her first attempt at auditioning as a TV host backfired and she was sent home on the first day of the audition. Reliving her prime days, Jahmby narrated how she was determined to follow her dream of becoming a news anchor after completing her degree.
“There was a reality show that was running on one major TV channel here in Kenya, searching for the next top news anchor. I’ve always had the knack for news. At the time, I was working at Metro FM. Walked to my boss and asked him if he was ok with me participating in this competition. He agreed to it.
“Auditions were at Film Studios. The queue stretched all the way to the showground. I was at the back kabisa. Imagine 300 people before you. Then we got the briefing paper and it indicated, ‘no persons with experience in a media house allowed to participate in this audition’. Mimi Jahmby Koikai, nirudi home after watu 300 kukuwa mbele yangu?” she posed.
According to the endometriosis survivor, she went ahead to audition for the position despite the warning and was the first contestant to be sent packing.
“So I stayed in line until I got to the audition room. The judges were a few people I was in campus with. I felt a wave of despair. Like I’m here auditioning, yet my classmates will be judging me? I did my thing and I was considered. We got into the house and we were assigned to different groups. I was the group leader and we won the challenge. Later that evening, we were driven back to Film Studios for a briefing. The presenter of the show said some of us have to go home.
“My name was called out first amongst other great people. We were dropped home. I cried. It felt like I’d lost such a great opportunity. My mom and late grandma were so sad cos they loved to watch me do the news,” she narrated.
Later, Jahmby auditioned for another TV opportunity only to miss out as well.
“Then came another opportunity over 10 years ago, I saw a TV ad and decided to apply for the news anchor position. I didn’t get the job.”
However, due to endometriosis, Jahmby was forced to put her dreams on hold and concentrate on getting better. According to her, it is as though God had better plans for her and is grateful to not have gotten the jobs.
“I battled severe endometriosis in silence for over 19 years. I think of how engaging the newsroom is and I’m grateful I wasn’t in that space. I’d have utilized all my sick-leaves and off-days and just declared redundant.”
There was a reality show that was running on one major TV channel here in Kenya, searching for the next top news anchor. I’ve always had the knack for news. At the time, I was working at Metro Fm. Walked to my boss and asked him if he was ok with me participating in this competition. He agreed to it. Auditions were at Film Studios. The queue stretched all the way to the showground. I was at the back kabisa. Imagine 300 people before you. Then we got the briefing paper and it indicated, ‘no persons with experience in a media house allowed to participate in this audition’. Mimi Jahmby Koikai, nirudi home after watu 300 kukuwa mbele yangu? Nikasema zi. So I stayed in line until I got to the audition room. The judges were a few people I was in campus with. I felt a wave of despair. Like I’m here auditioning, yet my classmates will be judging me? I did my thing and I was considered. We got into the house and we were assigned to different groups. I was the group leader and we won the challenge. Later that evening, we were driven back to Film Studios for a briefing. The presenter of the show said, some of us have to go home. My name was called out first amongst other great people. We were dropped home. I cried. It felt like I’d lost such a great opportunity. My mom and late grandma were so sad cos they loved to watch me do the news. Then came another opportunity over 10years ago, I saw a TV ad and decided to apply for the news anchor position. As you see in this pic, I got my hair done at Ralph’s Hair Salon, new suit etc. I didn’t get the job. After KBC, I never got to anchor the news again. I’m grateful I did not get the job even though I felt dejected at the time. I battled severe Endometriosis in silence for over 19years. I think of how engaging the newsroom is and I’m grateful I wasn’t in that space. I’d have utilised all my sick-leaves and off-days and just declared redundant. There are many people like me who are bound by chronic illness and cannot do the things they love. I share your pain. But there’s hope. I’m grateful to God for His reminder that He will restore to you all the years that the locusts have eaten. Also Jer 29:11