Dating in your 40’s is different from when you were wild and adventurous in your 20’s.
Being much older, you are wiser, financially stable and probably considering serious arrangements that will lead to marriage.
At this age, playing games when it comes to matters of the heart are no longer the tune you dance to.
You want to get it right especially if you’re coming from a failed relationship or marriage.
And if children are involved, dating gets complicated even more. You have to factor in whether the partner you will get will be comfortable being a step-parent or not and whether they will be able to accommodate your ex with whom you are co-parenting with.
What if you don’t have any children but your new partner comes with children?
Here are some useful dating tips worth looking into if you are considering getting into a relationship at this stage in life:
Whether or not you have children will definitely have an effect on your dating.
If you meet a person who has kids, he or she may not want to have more yet you may want to have get children.
These differing opinions may throw a hammer in the works and might even render the two of you incompatible.
If your ex is also constantly in the picture, this may not sit well with your potential partner.
There is also the issue of raising young kids and then there is the finances involved.
ii.Manage your expectations
It is very different for men and women looking for a partner in their 40’s. The playing ground is not leveled and to be honest, the younger have more options. And then there is gender.
A man in his 40’s is more mature and in a much better position financially. This makes him more attractive to women in their late 20’s and 30’s looking to settle down. And should he want more children, he may even go for a younger woman.
On the other hand, women will find it difficult to pair up because she may have children already and could be already leaving the safe pregnancy window. Should a man want more children she may not be able to fulfil his desire.
iii.Stay away from dating apps
Unless you want to have one-night stands and short-lived flings that never go anywhere, avoid dating apps like a plague.
Most people in these apps are out to have fun and rarely will you find genuine connections unless you pay for match making sites and hope that they work in your favor.
iv.Leave your dirty laundry out
The fastest way to suck the energy out of a date is by advertising your problems. This makes your life look chaotic and unstable.
Leave your baby mama drama and how you were cheated on out. No matter how minor it may be like a bad boss or how your landlord is giving you hell, your potential new partner doesn’t need to hear all that on the first date.
Give priority to getting to know each other first then open up gradually. Let it flow.
v.Reveal your expectations
To avoid wasting time and knowing whether the other person is looking for what you are, you may want to consider being open about your dating goals.
If they don’t like it, well. You have one less person to worry about.
At 40, your tolerance for nonsense is diminishing, so be clear about what you don’t like and what you’re interested in.
After declaring that long distance relationships aren’t for her, Sherlyne Anyango might have bagged herself a new mzungu boyfriend. It’s barely days since she left the country to go to the States to ‘hustle’. According to her, it’s easier to hustle in the States with her twerking talent.
Love At First Sight?
Well, she moved on quickly! This was the reaction of most of her fans after Sherlyne went live with her new catch. Most people were surprised by how fast she possibly got a boyfriend. But she hasn’t made it clear.
While this might seem unfair to her Kenyan bae, Oga Obinna, it was a mutual agreement between them to dissolve their relationship due to the distance between them.
”I’m a single boy again now😪😱!! Now with the standards you set who will fit in🤷🏿 who will fill your shoes??But Si Ni Life… But for now Kill Them with your AWESOMENESS and SECURE THE BAG!!! Don’t let nobody tell you otherwise. Plus there will always be space for you in my Heart and Kidney🙊🙈🙏🏿.”
In line to this, Sherlyne had also declared how much she misses Obinna and wrote back to him;
”Don’t make me cry. That’s life 😞😞. I feel bad. I miss you badly.”
Well, turns out she won’t be missing him any more after getting a new catch. Obinna has not yet responded to Sherlyne’s video posted on her Insta stories. I bet he’s not happy seeing her with another man.
When it comes to buying or tailoring a new blazer, most people think it’s all about getting what fits. Even though that is one of the most vital things to focus on when selecting blazers, there are other things you need to look out for in order to have a perfect and versatile blazer.
Versatile is not just about being able to match most pieces in your closet, but something that will enhance your outfits and define your best features while at it. In case you are wondering on where to start with buying a blazer, start here:
Yes, this is the first thing you should consider before making or buying yourself a blazer. You need to check your closet and consider the most dominant colour and pieces, can they be layered with a blazer or paired together?
Once that is set, you are good to go, though the more colourful a blazer is the more fun you will have pairing it with other pieces.
When selecting the perfect blazer always be very careful not to choose a small blazer. You might confuse a small blazer for a fitting one.
It should not be too tight that your shoulders cannot move in it or you can barely button it.
Although ladies are lucky they can go with any arm length, because it can be considered fashionable, ensure that it is your size. Also, avoid going for extra-large coats that will drown you and hide your best features.
A blazer is in between a suit jacket and a hoodie. Meaning, it should be able to pass for official and casual events. Let your guide be what you are buying it for.
There are different kinds of blazers ranging from open front blazers, single breasted blazers, belted ones, the list is endless.
Always go for a blazer that resonates with your style and closet items. Also, long blazers are classier and versatile than the shorter boyfriend ones. This is in terms of versatility.
Are you looking for a linen blazer, cotton or the suit material fabric? Do you want it shiny or matte? Do you need one with metal studded elements or with embellished buttons like the army? The kind of texture you go for will determine the way you dress your blazer.
Although blazers are meant to match with all outfits, the kind of design you go for can either limit your outfit choices or broaden your matching game.
They say the longer the blazer, the double the respect. You already know what I mean by this. Longer blazers are more eye catching, trendy and versatile. It will be easier for you to pair them to a tiny skirt, pencil trouser or palazzos.
Also did I mention how well they pair with crop tops? Yes, when buying a blazer, the length is very important.
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By Milo George
Residents of Pipeline Transami area are decrying poor drainage system that has caused sewage water to overflow in their area of residence.
The residents claim that the overflowing sewage is not only putting their lives at risk but also causing air pollution.
They have called on Nairobi Metropolitan Services and Nairobi City Water and Sewage Company to come on board and expand the sewer lines before more areas are flooded with raw human wastes coming from the blocked pipes. “We want Major Badi and our leaders to resolve this menace immediately. It’s terrible many have been forced to shift their businesses because of the foul smell,” they said. Pastor Joe Ndivoh of Word Evangelistic Explosion Ministries says that they have been forced to call off the Sunday School Service to protect the children from the smelly sewage. ‘‘We now fear that if prompt action is not taken then we will have a bigger health problem than this because we fear there could be an outbreak of water-borne disease anytime,’’ Pastor Ndivoh added.
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