By NJOKI CHEGE
World Suicide Prevention Day 2018 was observed on September 10. There couldn’t be a more apt time to write about suicide because statistics from the World Health Organization indicate that the number of suicide cases has risen by 58 per cent since 2008.
This translates to 421 suicide cases in 2017. Out of these, 330 were men.
This week, Kenyans on social media were collectively shocked when popular columnist Rasna Warah tweeted “Suicide tips, anyone?” triggering a barrage of messages of encouragement and distress tweets hoping that she was OK.
Thankfully, Warah is OK and is getting the help and support she needs.
Today’s column is dedicated to the many people reading this — especially the young people — who are contemplating suicide.
Depression, suicide and mental health in general is an issue we like to skirt around but we must admit the truth to ourselves; now more than ever, more young people are experiencing depression, many are contemplating suicide and even more are committing suicide.
If you are among the many young people who are thinking of taking your life, today’s article is for you.
Life, by its definition is difficult.
ENDING IT ALL
Being an adult or “adulting” as my fellow millennials like to call it, is a tiring task. You get into adulthood filled with hopes, dreams and massive expectations of an easy life, but the truth — the bitter truth is — the world is a dark, cold and unforgiving place.
Your dreams will often not come true, your expectations will turn into massive disappointments, and your hopes will be crushed.
As an adult, you will face life greatest difficulties, you will experience deep loss resulting from the death of a close one, you will be heartbroken by people you thought you would never live without, and you will make life-altering mistakes that will change the course of your life forever.
Life will break you. Life will put you on your knees. Life will humble you.
You will go through things in life that will hit you in places you never thought you would be hit.
In that bottomless pit of despair and hopelessness, you will battle helplessness, guilt, shame and deep sadness that never seems to go away. It will feel like a heavy burden on your young shoulders, or a dark cloud above your head and the tightness in your chest, the lump in your throat will seem almost permanent.
You will be tired but cannot sleep, you will lay awake at night, worrying about your life and your future. Even when you get a full night’s sleep, you will wake up tired and exhausted because even though you may sleep, you never really rest.
Soon, you will begin to think about “ending it all”.
But at that moment of despair, when you are convinced that suicide is the only way out, I want you to know something. You will pull through. This dark clouds hanging over your head are not permanent; you will get through it.
BEST DAYS AHEAD
It might not seem that way now and pills down your throat may seem like the easiest way out right now, but believe me when I tell you, this too shall pass.
If you are feeling like your life is on the edge, that you are just breezing through life, I want you to first and foremost, change your thoughts.
“As a man thinketh, so is he”.
For as long as you entertain nasty, negative thoughts about yourself and your capabilities, you will forever be incarcerated in that cage of negativity.
So emancipate yourself by only thinking positive thoughts about yourself and encouraging yourself that “I will get through this, and I will not give up”. Healing, begins in your mind. You conquer the mind; you conquer the world.
Number two; I’d like you to keep yourself busy with work, a new hobby, friends, family, a charity organisation or even church. Try working out, running might help.
Lastly, I suggest you get help. Friends, family and professionals might help, but I have a feeling that perhaps this might be a good time to get in touch with your spiritual side.
The one thing I know for sure is that your best days are ahead of you. You will pull through this, you will smile again. You will enjoy the sunshine again. You will be happy again.
Do not, for a moment underestimate the healing power of time. Time heals all wounds. So hang in there, mate. This too, shall pass.
Singer speaks after attacking lover at WCB signee Zuchu’s star-studded concert
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On 18 July, there was fanfare at the Mlimani City Hall in Dar es Salaam as WCB signee Zuchu held a thanksgiving concert months after her debut EP, I Am Zuchu. The event dubbed ‘Ahsante Nashukuru’ mainly featured performances by artistes from the WCB stable and attracted the whos-who in the Tanzanian entertainment and political scenes.
However, singer Gigy Money who also performed made the headlines for the wrong reasons after getting into a scuffle with her lover during the much-publicised concert.
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Peaceful arrival, later chaos
Moments earlier, Gigy and her Nigerian man were seen arriving arm in arm at the event whose highlight featured Zuchu receiving a brand new car from WCB head honcho Diamond Platnumz. Donning matching outfits, the couple was spotted on the red carpet as the paparazzi scrambled to capture the moment. However, all hell breaks loose later and viral videos depict the visibly angered Nigerian arguing with a bouncer at the entrance. After a tense confrontation, Gigy’s man is seen being led by the screaming bouncer towards the exit. Shortly after, a similarly irritated Gigy emerges and follows the pair.
“Gigy! Wewe Gigy wewe!” a woman in the background is heard dissuading the singer from pursuing them but the singer pays no heed and heads for the pair.
“You want to beat me?” the boyfriend is heard asking an approaching Gigy as the bouncer acts as a barrier between them. The bouncer manages to steer the incensed man towards the exit as Gigy follows behind, hurling obscenities.
At some point, a barefoot Gigy turns into a sprint before throwing one of her shoes which hits the man who then responds with an insult. Another bouncer finally intervenes and the two are separated. Gigy then asks for her vehicle so she can head home before warning the press against sharing videos of the incident.
Though the cause of their tiff is still unknown Gigy later made reference to the shocking incident in a social media post, hinting that alcohol had a part to play in the fracas. In another post, Gigy shared a photo alongside her estranged lover writing: “My mad man looked handsome before his demons arose and mine arose too.”
‘Running over Ali Kiba’
Gigy is not new controversy and recently said she’d run over her ex, singer Ali Kiba for breaking her heart.
“I will knock all of them down, I mean I will kill them. In fact, I will flatten them like chapatis. The first person I will knock down and kill is Ali Kiba. Actually, I don’t need a weak car, I need a Fuso so that when I knock him down I will be sure he doesn’t survive,” Gigy told Ayo TV.
Dating Kiba brothers
Gigy had in the past admitted to dating both Ali Kiba and his younger brother, Abdu Kiba. She solely laid the blame on Chekecha singer for pursuing her despite knowing that she’d been with his younger brother. Abdu expressed being heartbroken after learning the two had a fling, prompting him to marry.
“I was very hurt on hearing that Ali was dating Gigy Money because I dated her first before she became famous. But it’s alleged that Ali didn’t know. It hurt me for a while till when I married,” said Abdu.
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Why Jahmby Kokai is happy her TV anchor dream never came true
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Popular media personality Jahmby Koikai narrated how her first attempt at auditioning as a TV host backfired and she was sent home on the first day of the audition. Reliving her prime days, Jahmby narrated how she was determined to follow her dream of becoming a news anchor after completing her degree.
“There was a reality show that was running on one major TV channel here in Kenya, searching for the next top news anchor. I’ve always had the knack for news. At the time, I was working at Metro FM. Walked to my boss and asked him if he was ok with me participating in this competition. He agreed to it.
“Auditions were at Film Studios. The queue stretched all the way to the showground. I was at the back kabisa. Imagine 300 people before you. Then we got the briefing paper and it indicated, ‘no persons with experience in a media house allowed to participate in this audition’. Mimi Jahmby Koikai, nirudi home after watu 300 kukuwa mbele yangu?” she posed.
According to the endometriosis survivor, she went ahead to audition for the position despite the warning and was the first contestant to be sent packing.
“So I stayed in line until I got to the audition room. The judges were a few people I was in campus with. I felt a wave of despair. Like I’m here auditioning, yet my classmates will be judging me? I did my thing and I was considered. We got into the house and we were assigned to different groups. I was the group leader and we won the challenge. Later that evening, we were driven back to Film Studios for a briefing. The presenter of the show said some of us have to go home.
“My name was called out first amongst other great people. We were dropped home. I cried. It felt like I’d lost such a great opportunity. My mom and late grandma were so sad cos they loved to watch me do the news,” she narrated.
Later, Jahmby auditioned for another TV opportunity only to miss out as well.
“Then came another opportunity over 10 years ago, I saw a TV ad and decided to apply for the news anchor position. I didn’t get the job.”
However, due to endometriosis, Jahmby was forced to put her dreams on hold and concentrate on getting better. According to her, it is as though God had better plans for her and is grateful to not have gotten the jobs.
“I battled severe endometriosis in silence for over 19 years. I think of how engaging the newsroom is and I’m grateful I wasn’t in that space. I’d have utilized all my sick-leaves and off-days and just declared redundant.”
There was a reality show that was running on one major TV channel here in Kenya, searching for the next top news anchor. I’ve always had the knack for news. At the time, I was working at Metro Fm. Walked to my boss and asked him if he was ok with me participating in this competition. He agreed to it. Auditions were at Film Studios. The queue stretched all the way to the showground. I was at the back kabisa. Imagine 300 people before you. Then we got the briefing paper and it indicated, ‘no persons with experience in a media house allowed to participate in this audition’. Mimi Jahmby Koikai, nirudi home after watu 300 kukuwa mbele yangu? Nikasema zi. So I stayed in line until I got to the audition room. The judges were a few people I was in campus with. I felt a wave of despair. Like I’m here auditioning, yet my classmates will be judging me? I did my thing and I was considered. We got into the house and we were assigned to different groups. I was the group leader and we won the challenge. Later that evening, we were driven back to Film Studios for a briefing. The presenter of the show said, some of us have to go home. My name was called out first amongst other great people. We were dropped home. I cried. It felt like I’d lost such a great opportunity. My mom and late grandma were so sad cos they loved to watch me do the news. Then came another opportunity over 10years ago, I saw a TV ad and decided to apply for the news anchor position. As you see in this pic, I got my hair done at Ralph’s Hair Salon, new suit etc. I didn’t get the job. After KBC, I never got to anchor the news again. I’m grateful I did not get the job even though I felt dejected at the time. I battled severe Endometriosis in silence for over 19years. I think of how engaging the newsroom is and I’m grateful I wasn’t in that space. I’d have utilised all my sick-leaves and off-days and just declared redundant. There are many people like me who are bound by chronic illness and cannot do the things they love. I share your pain. But there’s hope. I’m grateful to God for His reminder that He will restore to you all the years that the locusts have eaten. Also Jer 29:11