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BY THE BOOK: Jane Ngunjiri

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By VIVIAN ODONGO

Jane Ngunjiri is a counselling psychologist, a trainer, author, mother and wife with over 15 years’ experience in the area of counselling, training and motivation.

She is also an author of three published academic journals. She speaks to Nation about her writing journey and experience in counseling in relation to parenting and teenagers.

Tell us about your book

Raising a child is probably the most gratifying job any parent will ever have but also the most challenging.

My book is basically about equipping parents, teachers, pastors and counsellors with the requisite skills, knowledge and mindset for parenting adolescents in the 21stcentury.

It is based on extensive research, work experience and my own personal experience as a parent.

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My advice to parents is for them to make early interventions to avoid crying over spilt milk.

Teenage and parenthood is something you’re passionate about. What can you say about the rise of teenage pregnancies in Machakos and across the country?

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My take is that due to the socio-economic transition, lack of the requisite skills and knowledge coupled with poverty, most parents rely on teachers or leave their teens under the influence of peers to provide information on sex. Due to the Covid-19 pandemic, teenagers are currently out of school, very idle and their sex hormones are at their peak.

Most parents want to do their best in talking to their teens about sex.  However, they are often not sure about how to begin due to their own socialization (their parents never discussed sexual matters with them).

Nevertheless, it is critical for parents to become the first teachers for their children on matters of sexuality and drug abuse before anyone else can confuse them with “just facts”.

Tip; It is better to talk to your children before eleven years. While talking to them about sex, remember to talk about more than basic biology and communicate your values as they also need moral guidance from you.

Do you think the Kenyan government is doing enough to provide sustainable mental health care to adolescents?

The government is doing its part of providing the facilities and staff (health care professionals and psychologists).  However, a lot more needs to be done in terms of providing mental health awareness and reducing situations that put adolescents at risk of poor mental health.  Parents and teachers also have a huge obligation of identifying the earliest signs of mental illness for early intervention and management.  The issue of drug abuse among adolescent is on the increase and has negatively affected mental health.

Which other books would you recommend for parents struggling with raising teenagers?

On becoming a woman, Across the Bridge by Mwangi Gicheru and Counselling Adolescents by Geldad and Geldard (2004).

How has the writing and publishing process been like for you?

My motivation for writing this book was occasioned by my fear of parenting my adolescents which was triggered by a negative comment made way back before I parented my two daughters who are now young adults.  From that single comment( to the effect that no one has the authority to comment about parenting issues before parenting a teenager), I purposed to undertake the necessary research to assess what it takes to successfully parent an adolescent.

From the moment I decided to write this book, it took me approximately ten years when the final version was finally published and ready for the market.  That is why it is imperative to choose a topic that you are passionate about as the journey is quite long, expensive and full of challenges.

Which book genres do you enjoy reading most, and why?

Motivation Books like the Power of Positive Thinking, Ben Carson’s books and Rich Dad Poor Dad; such books have been instrumental in my parenting journey, personal growth and in motivating and counselling my clients.

Do you think it’s possible for a Kenyan author to entirely rely on book writing as a source of income?

It is challenging but not impossible as it requires very good marketing and network skills.  It is also a long process and Kenyans do not like reading.  I have been selling mine as a side hassle and so far I have sold over 100 copies. I have also discovered that working with a publishing house gives you fewer returns and you end up selling similar or fewer copies.

What are you currently reading?

I’m currently reading Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill and working on my second book.

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Singer speaks after attacking lover at WCB signee Zuchu’s star-studded concert

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Controversial singer Gigy Money turned WCB signee Zuchu’s concert into a fight club, hurling shoes at her lover.

On 18 July, there was fanfare at the Mlimani City Hall in Dar es Salaam as WCB signee Zuchu held a thanksgiving concert months after her debut EP, I Am Zuchu. The event dubbed ‘Ahsante Nashukuru’ mainly featured performances by artistes from the WCB stable and attracted the whos-who in the Tanzanian entertainment and political scenes. 

READ ALSO: I’m not behind Diamond, Tanasha split- WCB’s Zuchu sets record straight

However, singer Gigy Money who also performed made the headlines for the wrong reasons after getting into a scuffle with her lover during the much-publicised concert.

READ ALSO: I was bewitched by a friend – Gigy Money

Peaceful arrival, later chaos

Moments earlier, Gigy and her Nigerian man were seen arriving arm in arm at the event whose highlight featured Zuchu receiving a brand new car from WCB head honcho Diamond Platnumz. Donning matching outfits, the couple was spotted on the red carpet as the paparazzi scrambled to capture the moment.  However, all hell breaks loose later and viral videos depict the visibly angered Nigerian arguing with a bouncer at the entrance. After a tense confrontation, Gigy’s man is seen being led by the screaming bouncer towards the exit. Shortly after, a similarly irritated Gigy emerges and follows the pair.

“Gigy! Wewe Gigy wewe!” a woman in the background is heard dissuading the singer from pursuing them but the singer pays no heed and heads for the pair.

“You want to beat me?” the boyfriend is heard asking an approaching Gigy as the bouncer acts as a barrier between them. The bouncer manages to steer the incensed man towards the exit as Gigy follows behind, hurling obscenities.

READ ALSO: I will get a baby with your eldest son – Gigy Money warns Zari

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At some point, a barefoot Gigy turns into a sprint before throwing one of her shoes which hits the man who then responds with an insult. Another bouncer finally intervenes and the two are separated. Gigy then asks for her vehicle so she can head home before warning the press against sharing videos of the incident.

Addresses incident

Though the cause of their tiff is still unknown Gigy later made reference to the shocking incident in a social media post, hinting that alcohol had a part to play in the fracas.  In another post, Gigy shared a photo alongside her estranged lover writing: “My mad man looked handsome before his demons arose and mine arose too.”

‘Running over Ali Kiba’

Gigy is not new controversy and recently said she’d run over her ex, singer Ali Kiba for breaking her heart.

“I will knock all of them down, I mean I will kill them. In fact, I will flatten them like chapatis. The first person I will knock down and kill is Ali Kiba.  Actually, I don’t need a weak car, I need a Fuso so that when I knock him down I will be sure he doesn’t survive,” Gigy told Ayo TV.

READ ALSO: Gigy Money under fire for dirty-dancing with married singer

Dating Kiba brothers

Gigy had in the past admitted to dating both Ali Kiba and his younger brother, Abdu Kiba. She solely laid the blame on Chekecha singer for pursuing her despite knowing that she’d been with his younger brother. Abdu expressed being heartbroken after learning the two had a fling, prompting him to marry.

“I was very hurt on hearing that Ali was dating Gigy Money because I dated her first before she became famous. But it’s alleged that Ali didn’t know. It hurt me for a while till when I married,” said Abdu.

 

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Defunct Nairobi County Council  Nurses Go On Strike, Citing Discrimination By The Government

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Why Jahmby Kokai is happy her TV anchor dream never came true

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Jahmby Koikai is glad her dream of being a TV anchor never came true.

Popular media personality Jahmby Koikai narrated how her first attempt at auditioning as a TV host backfired and she was sent home on the first day of the audition. Reliving her prime days, Jahmby narrated how she was determined to follow her dream of becoming a news anchor after completing her degree.

“There was a reality show that was running on one major TV channel here in Kenya, searching for the next top news anchor. I’ve always had the knack for news. At the time, I was working at Metro FM. Walked to my boss and asked him if he was ok with me participating in this competition. He agreed to it.

“Auditions were at Film Studios. The queue stretched all the way to the showground. I was at the back kabisa. Imagine 300 people before you. Then we got the briefing paper and it indicated, ‘no persons with experience in a media house allowed to participate in this audition’. Mimi Jahmby Koikai, nirudi home after watu 300 kukuwa mbele yangu?” she posed.

READ ALSO: Jahmby Koikai back in Kenya after a year of treatment abroad

According to the endometriosis survivor, she went ahead to audition for the position despite the warning and was the first contestant to be sent packing.

“So I stayed in line until I got to the audition room. The judges were a few people I was in campus with. I felt a wave of despair. Like I’m here auditioning, yet my classmates will be judging me? I did my thing and I was considered. We got into the house and we were assigned to different groups. I was the group leader and we won the challenge. Later that evening, we were driven back to Film Studios for a briefing. The presenter of the show said some of us have to go home.

“My name was called out first amongst other great people. We were dropped home. I cried. It felt like I’d lost such a great opportunity. My mom and late grandma were so sad cos they loved to watch me do the news,” she narrated.

READ ALSO: Why I’m walking around with a mask- Jahmby Koikai

Second audition

Later, Jahmby auditioned for another TV opportunity only to miss out as well.

“Then came another opportunity over 10 years ago, I saw a TV ad and decided to apply for the news anchor position. I didn’t get the job.”

However, due to endometriosis, Jahmby was forced to put her dreams on hold and concentrate on getting better. According to her, it is as though God had better plans for her and is grateful to not have gotten the jobs.

“I battled severe endometriosis in silence for over 19 years. I think of how engaging the newsroom is and I’m grateful I wasn’t in that space. I’d have utilized all my sick-leaves and off-days and just declared redundant.”

 

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There was a reality show that was running on one major TV channel here in Kenya, searching for the next top news anchor. I’ve always had the knack for news. At the time, I was working at Metro Fm. Walked to my boss and asked him if he was ok with me participating in this competition. He agreed to it. Auditions were at Film Studios. The queue stretched all the way to the showground. I was at the back kabisa. Imagine 300 people before you. Then we got the briefing paper and it indicated, ‘no persons with experience in a media house allowed to participate in this audition’. Mimi Jahmby Koikai, nirudi home after watu 300 kukuwa mbele yangu? Nikasema zi. So I stayed in line until I got to the audition room. The judges were a few people I was in campus with. I felt a wave of despair. Like I’m here auditioning, yet my classmates will be judging me? I did my thing and I was considered. We got into the house and we were assigned to different groups. I was the group leader and we won the challenge. Later that evening, we were driven back to Film Studios for a briefing. The presenter of the show said, some of us have to go home. My name was called out first amongst other great people. We were dropped home. I cried. It felt like I’d lost such a great opportunity. My mom and late grandma were so sad cos they loved to watch me do the news. Then came another opportunity over 10years ago, I saw a TV ad and decided to apply for the news anchor position. As you see in this pic, I got my hair done at Ralph’s Hair Salon, new suit etc. I didn’t get the job. After KBC, I never got to anchor the news again. I’m grateful I did not get the job even though I felt dejected at the time. I battled severe Endometriosis in silence for over 19years. I think of how engaging the newsroom is and I’m grateful I wasn’t in that space. I’d have utilised all my sick-leaves and off-days and just declared redundant. There are many people like me who are bound by chronic illness and cannot do the things they love. I share your pain. But there’s hope. I’m grateful to God for His reminder that He will restore to you all the years that the locusts have eaten. Also Jer 29:11

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