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  • Earning respect is about sticking to your convictions and making the best decisions possible.
  • We asked two workplace experts to share the best and fastest ways to gain your coworkers’ respect.
  • Those strategies include keeping your promises, admitting to your mistakes, and being a good listener.

There’s a difference between being liked and being respected. Ideally, you’ll be both.

But according to Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and the author of “Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job,” being respected is at least partly about being “steadfast in your convictions.” Meaning you “don’t always need to please everyone” with your decisions.

We asked Taylor and Michael Kerr, an international business speaker and author of “The Humor Advantage,” about the best — and quickest — ways to earn respect at work. Read on for their top tips.

Give respect to other people


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Give respect to other people

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Kerr called it a “chicken-and-egg relationship”: If you respect other people, they’ll be more inclined to respect you, and so on.

Taylor emphasized the importance of treating everyone with equal respect, whether they’re above or below you in the corporate hierarchy.

Consistently keep your promises


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Consistently keep your promises

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“As soon as we become known as a person who can’t be trusted to keep their word, it’s one of the quickest ways to lose respect,” Kerr said.

Taylor recommended trying not only to meet your deadlines, but to beat them whenever possible. “Other people are counting on you,” she said.

Let your actions speak louder than your words


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Let your actions speak louder than your words

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One great way to lose people’s respect? Walk around telling them “how great you are,” Kerr said.

Don’t let your ego get in the way, he added; be confident that if you’re doing a good job, your coworkers will notice.

Help others when they need it …


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Help others when they need it …

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Let’s say you know a coworker is having a hard time finishing a particular project. Taylor said you might recommend that they talk to someone in another department with the appropriate skill set.

“Going out of your way a little bit is the right thing to do,” Taylor said. “And it also, not so surprisingly, comes back to you in more ways than you can imagine.”

That said, Taylor said people will respect you even more if you set some reasonable boundaries when it comes to helping others: “Don’t be a doormat.”

… and ask for help when you need it


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… and ask for help when you need it

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People will be more inclined to trust you, Taylor said, if you display occasional vulnerability.

Say what you mean


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Say what you mean

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“Being honest and direct is a really important component of respect,” Kerr said. “We don’t tend to respect people who are vague or wishy-washy.”

Even if your conversation partner doesn’t quite agree with your position, the key is being “direct in a constructive way.”

Always strive to do better


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Always strive to do better

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You never want to find yourself “settling for the lowest common denominator,” Kerr said. Instead, you should always be searching for a better way to do your work.

Admit to your mistakes


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Admit to your mistakes

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Regardless of your position at your company, it’s crucial to take ownership of your work — and your missteps. Don’t “make excuses for things when something’s gone off the rails,” Kerr said.

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In fact, Taylor mentioned a study she ran that found 91% of employees said they were more satisfied with their job when their boss admitted to mistakes.

Be able to laugh at yourself


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Be able to laugh at yourself

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Kerr has led surveys that found leaders who practice self-effacing humor tend to be more respected in the workplace.

“I often say how ironic it is,” he added, “that people who take themselves overly seriously, we tend not to take those people very seriously.”

Show kindness


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“Nobody respects bullies; nobody respects a pushy person,” Kerr said.

Taylor said being kind can be as simple as saying “good morning” to your coworkers or asking about something big that’s going on in their personal lives.

Be willing to change your mind


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Be willing to change your mind

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Be open to hearing other people’s perspectives, Kerr said, and potentially changing your mind based on what you’ve learned.

Listen well


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Listen well

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Kerr said he’s found in surveys that people’s favorite bosses are typically the best listeners. Respondents have said things like, “I get the sense that when I’m talking, I’m the only person in the room.”

See the good in everything and everyone


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See the good in everything and everyone

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Don’t be a Debbie Downer. Try to find the silver lining in every challenging situation. If you’re known for having a positive attitude, you’ll earn people’s respect, Kerr said.

Give credit where it’s due


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Give credit where it’s due

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This behavior is especially important for leaders, Kerr said. Be the type of boss who uses the term “we” instead of “I,” and means it. Kerr said his surveys have consistently found that employees appreciate when their efforts are recognized and praised.

Know what you stand for in life


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Know what you stand for in life

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Find two or three values that are important to you, Kerr said, and never compromise on them. When people see that you stick to your principles, even if they disagree with those principles, they’ll think, “I respect you still for holding your ground.”



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200 homeless families seek Governments’ help to recover their land – KBC

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Hundreds of homeless families in Kinango Sub-county, Kwale County are appealing to the Government to help them repossess their land from a private developer.

The 200 families from Mwamdudu in Bonje area are accusing a private developer of colluding with top Government officials to grab their ancestral land.

Their houses were demolished with the residents saying they couldn’t salvage anything as the demolition caught them unprepared.

They condemned act saying it was inhumane and a violation of their human rights and access to justice.

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Mwamdudu secondary school, a dispensary and a children orphanage were also demolished.

Ramadhan Lewa Kalume a resident in the area dismissed claims that they had entered into a consent with the company associated with the private developer.

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 “I wish to insist that we were never consulted in the sale of the land to the private developer,” he pointed out.

The local resident allege that the demolition exercise was carried out by officers from the General Service Unit [GSU] and not regular police.

Ms. Salama Kenga, a single mother said they are spending nights in the cold with their children and appealed for Government’s intervention.

Mwanahamisi Ramadhan, a 24 years old mother of three said she only managed to rescue her three children including a one day child she had given birth to on the day the demolitions were conducted.

The distraught mother says she is surviving on handouts from well-wishers to feed her young family and is sleeping outside in the cold with her newborn baby.

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PwC has commended the Kenya Revenue Authority (KRA) for lifting restrictions on warehousing of goods in Customs bonded warehouses, noting that the action will enhance the competitiveness of Kenya as a global and regional logistics hub.
PWC said the policy will also boost to businesses that utilise Customs bonded warehouses to store goods, defer payment of duties and are involved in regional trade. It however called for consistency in tax law.
“We expect that with Customs having lifted restrictions on warehousing of goods will help contribute to the State’s agenda of reviving the economy in light of the ravages of Covid-19, improve cash flow and stock management for businesses,” said Indirect Taxes Associate Director at PwC Kenya Maurice Mwaniki.
“We expect this will once again enhance the competitiveness of Kenya as a global and regional logistics hub and assist attract inward investment into Kenya.”

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Kenya: Court Cancels Former Rugby Player Alex Olaba’s Sh300,000 Bail

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Nairobi — A Nairobi Chief Magistrate’s Court has cancelled the Sh300,000 cash bail issued on former rugby player Alex Olaba, after the prosecution said he had committed an offense of conspiracy to murder while he was still face a change of gang rape.

Trial Magistrate Zainab Abdul said the accused committed the offense while he was out on bond and proceeded to threaten the complainant in the case.

Olaba will remain in custody until the two cases are heard and determined. He wull be back in court on June 3 for purposes of taking a hearing date.

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The former Kenya Sevens and Kenya Harlequins player was arrested last month by detectives for allegedly trying to hatch a plot to kill witnesses in the case.

At the same time, the Court has also barred the media from publishing images of the complainant and directed that the matter will be heard in camera.

Olaba was previously charged with Frank wanyama with an offense of gang rape in 2019. They had been found gulty and sentenced to 15 years in jail. They however appealed against the sentence and the same was quashed by the High Court on a technicality.

The duo was later arrested in 2020 and charged afresh

When the matter came up for mention in April 22nd the suspect mulamba did not appear virtually instead he told the court that he was away in Bungoma, but according to the investigating officer he lied to the court he was in Nairobi.

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